So just a few days ago, there was this discussion at teh Mothership about using "gay" as an insult. Joe Max mentioned this Wanda Sykes ad which totally defines the issue (except for the fact that the chef in question was totes gay, as in faggy faggy fag gay).
Later, I checked out some vids on the It Gets Better Project. I'm not going to lie to you, so I won't say that I wasn't on the verge of tears watching some of those vids.
See the thing about privilege, about entitlement, is that you are unaware of the advantages - that you take for granted your position of not being discriminated against.
Speaking of Dan Savage, this is reminiscent of the time he had to stop making fun of Trig. Leotarded. That was the word he switched to. For a guy who is normally adept at the words and their usingness in sentences - for meaning conveyability maximization - leotarded is pretty weak shit.
Anyways, what I'm getting to is that, yeah - I| use "gay" as an insult. And so do a lot of others. And gay people have way more on their plates to deal with than the frivilous use of "gay" to mean dumb or stupid or wevs. But just because that's the way things are, doesn't mean that it's the way things ought to be.
So I am going to make the effort to stop calling things gay - except if those things actually are gay. Gay as in homosexual or as in stereotypically campy homosexual (like the chef from the Sykes ad).
On a related note - I'm not going to use the word "cocksucker" as an insult. SRSLY, this world needs more cocksuckers. If more cocks got sucked, there'd probably be a whole lot less unhappiness.
I think you can guess where I stand on "motherfucker". This one's easier since "motherfucker" has become much less an insult since it got so intimately associated with the adjective "badass".
I'm going to stop now because I don't want to talk myself out of the other half of my entire vocabulary.